I have never known a parent who said that raising children is anything close to easy. I have never known a single mother that did not look exhausted as she tried to both work and raise her kids. Being a parent is hard, and being a single parent is even harder, but poor Hana had to raise two children who were part wolf and do it in secret. Mamoru Hosoda’s Wolf Children is a moving film of a beautiful and complicated little family that I believe is really geared towards parents. It contains some really great messages and lessons for young parents, especially single parents, who are struggling but filled with so much love for their little monsters. Wolf Children is a fun, but touching, movie about the importance and difficulty of family life, and the pain of growing up.
Hana is impossible to dislike, and her strength through her exhausting journey is extraordinary. She is a stay at home single mom with little money, no friends, no help, two rambunctious wolf children, and a giant secret to keep from the world, and she does it all with a smile and a laugh. All parents go through remarkably similar things. They can connect with having too little money, too little sleep, being out of their depth, having little adult interaction, and children who are always hungry and making messes. All children can be wolves sometimes, and I feel this film is really just a slightly exaggerated tale of every single mother and family. While we can chuckle in amusement and sympathy seeing Hana doze off every spare second she gets, we also realize through her diligence and dedication that all the hard times are so worth it to her. There is nothing more important to Hana than her family. Nothing. Most families I know will agree that raising happy successful children is the top and only priority of a parent. Seeing the children laugh is all the reward needed. We all go through really hard times, but by remembering why we are doing the things we are, and who we are doing them for, it makes the burden just a little lighter. We will do anything for those that we love.
All parents want a good future for their beloved children, but it can be hard letting them go in the end. We raise them to be able to live confidently and happily in the world by themselves, to grow into good men and women, but the years always seem to fly by too quickly. After living a difficult life of secrecy in the city for years, Hana decides to move to the countryside with her children to give them more privacy and to give them the chance to decide who they want to be. However, when the time came and Ame chose to leave home and be a lone wolf, Hana is torn apart. Parents raise children for the purpose of them leaving home one day, but when they do, it is so difficult to let them go. It’s painful.
Hana actually reminded me a bit of my own mother. Once, my mother broke down in front of me when she thought of her youngest child leaving home in just a few years. She lamented that being a mother was her whole life and purpose, and when we had all left, what would her purpose be in life? With Ame living in the forest and Yuki gone to boarding school, there is a final scene with Hana just sitting alone in the dining room. She is still so young and has gone through so much, but now what was her purpose? It broke my heart a little.
Wolf Children helped me to understand the feelings and purpose of a parent so much better, as it slightly exaggerated the trials and reactions of a single parent. It is a hard life to raise two wild little pups by yourself, but the hard times make the joys that much greater. Little things like new books, new skills, fresh snow, and kind neighbors are treasured so much more. The fulfillment of a parent’s purpose is bittersweet. It is heartrending to let them go, but every time Hana hears her son howl out in the wilderness, she smiles. They are gone, but they are where they are meant to be. This movie is a wonderful, meaningful family film that teaches what it means to be a mother.
